Foster Adoption: Sense of Humor Required
This adventure with two new kids in the family requires a sense of humor. Thankfully, Ken has that in spades, and his humor helps me keep my sanity.
I’ve managed not to actually pull out my hair (yet!) but there are times I’ve considered it. The non-stop dirt bike sound effects make me a little crazy sometimes. The never-ending questions can frazzle me. Or the seemingly constant reminders I have to give: Sit on your bottom; don’t put your head in that; leave that alone; don’t grab the dog’s tail; don’t lay on the dog; we don’t jump on furniture (or off the stairs, or on each other, or off the play set); chew before you take another bite; etc, etc…
Each evening, I’ve spent some time catching Ken up on our day: our adventure to the doctor’s office for a required check-up; how I entertained Jem while waiting for Scout at school; various conversations I’ve had with the kids throughout the day. And Ken has nearly wet his pants laughing so hard. 😉
Ken’s sense of humor is such a blessing because if he had a high-stress or negative personality, we could both easily get ourselves worked up about everything, which would just snowball into relating negatively with the kids. These happenings don’t all seem hilarious at the moment I’m living them, but looking back at them as Ken loses his breath laughing certainly helps me put things back in perspective, and I find myself laughing, too.
Kathryn has told me numerous times since they moved in,
“They are SO annoying — but they are SO cute!!!“
(I will admit that Scout and Jem’s cuteness factor does work in their favor.)
To those who have been asking: We’re hanging in there. These adjustments would be hard anyway, but certainly moving two new children in less than 24 hours after my dad’s death has been extra hard. Our caseworker offered to let us push the move-in date later, but I told her it wouldn’t change anything so we might as well stick to the plan. We’ve had friends and family bring us meals, which has been amazingly helpful. Ken has been awesome in taking over in the evenings when I am simply DONE for the day. Lindsey gave the kids their baths one night, and Kathryn has been a fantastic helper all week. I’m very blessed.
Although things are crazy right now, there is no doubt that Scout and Jem have brought a whole lot of life to this house, exactly when it was needed.