This time around, I didn’t plan to come up with a “word of the year,” but as I was writing some end-of-the-year goals, I realized they all centered around simplifying life so that I can focus on what I want to focus on, and be less distracted by the literal and figurative clutter in my life. I’ll be sharing some specific aspects of this simplification process, but the first one is my social media life.
I like my online world.
Of course I enjoy the many lovely blogs in blogland, but I also have fun with these social media sites:
- I enjoy Pinterest because I find great ideas and inspiration, but it’s not a black hole of time wasting because I only pin occasionally. I can find ideas on particular topics, or share things I think other folks would enjoy. Sometimes weeks go by and I don’t even click over, and that’s okay.
- Some folks use twitter to tell the world what they’re having for breakfast. While I’ve probably been guilty of that myself, I mostly use it to find and share great links I wouldn’t ordinarily come across. I’m on twitter most days, but not for vast quantities of time, thanks to the ability to schedule tweets (using TweetDeck or HootSuite). Sometimes there’s a little conversation, too, and that can be fun.
- I’m trying not to love Instagram as much because I feel like it’s only a matter of time before they change user agreements to stuff I don’t like, but for now, it’s fun. A quick way to share a slice of my day and see slices of my friends’ days — even those who don’t blog. So for now, it’s still a keeper.
Why I’m saying goodbye to facebook:
Time wasting: I’ll admit that facebook can be fun for catching up with long-lost or far-away friends. But it can also be a total time waster. Maybe you are more disciplined than I am, but I find myself wasting too much time there.
Negativity: I’d love to see a study of how many status updates are negative vs. how many are upbeat/positive. I don’t know what it is about this particular social media outlet, but people tend to use facebook to complain. A lot.
Facebook friendships are artificial and superficial. When was the last time you picked up the phone to CALL your friend, rather than seeing what she was up to on facebook? (I’m guilty, too!) I know, not everyone falls into this trap, but it’s just too easy. I’ve also experienced real life friends expecting me to know what’s going on in their lives because they’ve facebooked about it, and this makes me sad because I feel like I’ve hurt their feelings by not checking their status often enough.
In regards to my blog page: I’ve kept my facebook page because I like having that outlet to share posts. But facebook keeps changing it’s algorithms and I’m tired of trying to keep up. I find myself worrying why when I drop a few followers (my people pleasing tendencies), but I just don’t want to care about that. So as hard as it is to drop my blog page when I have over 1000 fans — a number I never thought I’d reach — I’ve finally decided it’s not worth my time or effort since it’s not where I most interact with my readers anyway.
Is this goodbye to facebook forever? I’m not sure yet, but I’m leaning that way. A couple of years ago I signed off for a few months, but this time around I’m planning on signing of for at least this year, if not permanently.
If you’ve been connected with me on facebook, I hope you’ll take a second to subscribe to my blog by email or in a RSS feed reader — or at least connect with me somewhere, like twitter. Of course you can always send me an email, too!
And my dear local friends, I hope you know I’m just about always up for a chat by phone or even over a cup of tea (or coffee)!
Wife, mom, grandma. Introvert who finds joy in good books, sunshine, and authentic conversation. Fitness enthusiast and personal trainer. Often seen with a steaming mug of tea in hand.