Tag: older-child adoption
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Goodbye Visit + the Question {Foster Adoption}
Last week, my phone rang and the little voice on the end belonged to 5-year-old Scout: “Hi, Ms. Jamie. We just had our goodbye visit, and I wanted to ask if you would be our new family.” Tears sprang to my eyes and I clamped my hand over my mouth so I didn’t lose my…
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Adoption is hard. And weird. But worth it.
In my perfect world, every kid would have a safe and loving family, and do things like merrily bake cookies together every day. But, it’s not a perfect world. Right now we’re in the midst of the process of picking. We’re not talking about melons or avocados here (which are both hard to pick, by…
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Learning what mothering really is
For almost three years now, I’ve mothered Lindsey. I’ve cooked meals + washed clothes + set up dentist appointments + driven her to activities + made her clean her room + took care of her when she was sick. Lindsey knew she missed out in her early years on some of what a mother does,…
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Biggest Hurdles in Adoption
I am an enthusiastic adoption advocate, but as I’ve said before, I never want to paint such a rosy picture that families enter into the process blindly. Today’s post focuses on some of the challenges within the adoption process, as well as what you can do even if you don’t feel called to adopt. What…
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One Big Happy Family? Bonding in Adoption
In many families, like ours, there were already children in the home when a new adopted child joined the family. Questions I’m often asked about this include: How do we handle the blending with children already in the home? Are there jealousy issues? What about birth order? What do the kids (if not infants) call…